Right of wife
Sorry to disturb with this question again
As far I know the responsibility of household chores is of wife but she is only entitled to flour to make bread for her food and two sets of clothes a year that’s it nothing else is included in her nafaqa.
But a husband can ask her to make him something special and not allow her to eat it as it’s not her right he can enjoy his comfort food but the wife can’t but she has to make it ( don’t tell me about the sunnah of marriage as I know but not following sunnah isn’t a sin)
He has to only five her two sets of clothes but he can ask her wash his whole wardrobe, do the dishes, dusting , moping taking care of the kids etc but she is not entitled to anything
Doesn’t this concludes no matter how many islam has given to woman still it’s less than that of a man as he can enjoy his life as he only has to spend a few money for just flour and 2 clothes while wife only survive on the bare minimum
Assalāmualaykum Warahmatullāhi Wabarakātuhū
Hāmidan Wamuswalliyan
Al Jawāb Bi’ounillāh Wa’alayhi At-tuklān
While the Shari’ah places certain responsibilities on wives, it also imposes certain responsibilities on husbands, the fulfillment of which is as important as the responsibility of the husband over the wife.
Below are the rights of the wife over her husband:
a. The husband should try his best to manage his wife’s alimony according to his capacity and status.
b. Arrange suitable accommodation for her.
c. Pay her the dower.
d. Spend the night with her.
e. Be kind and gentle towards her.
f. Treat her as a mate and life partner instead of a maid.
g. Do not deal with undue strictness and hardship.
h. If something originates from her contrary to temperament and nature of the husband, he must show restraint and patience as much as possible.
i. Avoid beating her for disobedience or in illegal matters, rather explain gently. if she doesn’t come to terms, separate her bed, and if there is still no correction and it is necessary to apply a beating, do not use wood stick etc., just hit by hand, but do not hit the head and other vital organs. The hitting should be so light that the body is not hurt or injured.
j. Keep teaching her shariah rules, religious issues and Islamic etiquettes and keep urging her to take care of Shariah, especially compliance with the Shariah veil etc
k. The husband must give her permission to visit her parents and her other mahram relatives from time to time as per occasion and convenience.
In summary, the wife should consider her husband superior to her, be faithful and obedient to him, do not diminish his benevolence and pleasure, consider the good of her world and the hereafter as related to his happiness, The husband should consider his wife as a blessing from Allāh, value her and love her, if she makes a mistake he should turn a blind eye, try to correct her with patience and wisdom. He should fulfill her needs as much as he can, try to comfort and entertain her.
Below are some verse from the Qur’an and Ahādith related to the responsibilities of husbands.
The Almighty said:
وعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا (النساء: ۱۹)
And have good time with these women, and if you dislike them, you may dislike one thing and Allah will put a great benefit in it.
The Prophet (Sallallāhu alayhi Wasallam) said: The best person among you is the one who is best for his family (wife, children, relatives and servants), and I am the best among you for my family
…. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
:” أكمل المؤمنين إيماناً أحسنهم خلقاً، وخياركم خياركم لنسائهم(مشکاۃ المصابیح، 2/282، باب عشرۃ النساء)
The most perfect of the believers is the one who is the most virtuous of them, and the best of you is the one who is best to his wives.
In another Hadith, The Prophet (SAW) said:
خيركم خيركم لأهله وأنا خيركم لأهلي”.(مشکاۃ المصابیح، 2/281، باب عشرۃ النساء)
The best amongst you is the best towards his wife and children and I am the best amongst you towards my family.
No Muslim man should hate a Muslim woman. If in his eyes any trait or habit of this woman is disliked, then any other trait and habit will also be preferred
The Prophet (Sallallāhu ‘alayhi Wasallam) said: The most perfect of the believers is the one who is the most virtuous of them, and the best of you is the one who is best to his wives
There is another hadith Mubārak:
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: «لا يفرك مؤمن مؤمنةً إن كره منها خلقاً رضي منها آخر ۔
(مشکاۃ المصابیح، 2/280، باب عشرۃ النساء)
No Muslim man should hate a Muslim woman. If, in his view, any trait and habit of this woman is disliked, then another trait and habit will also be preferred.
Saying that its is SUNNAH, hence no sin if we do not practice upon it, this statement is wrong. The Shariah has different level of Sunnah, however one should try to follow the Sunnah to the best of his ability. To be in a healthy marital relationship is to have Akhlāqī Farīdhah (governed by noble characters).
We advice you to seek advice with your local for more details on this matter.
Allāh Ta’ālā knows best.
Muftī Mohammad Ashhad Bin Saeed Al Mahmūdy
Dāruliftaa Mahmoodiyyah Mauritius
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