Informing prospective spouse about my condition
I was diagnosed with psoriasis 3 years back.When it initially came it was bad where my body was almost covered with it once.Upon taking the treatment biologics injections.it cleared rapidly in 2-3 months
Since Psoriasis is an autoimmune condition i have to keep it in control and according to Doctors it cannot be cured completely,But there are medications which can keep it in control.But i know few people who have cured from it(remission)
After this initial major outbreak, i was pretty much clear from then by the grace of Allah from past 3 years.
Only this year in 2023 it was a little bad for around 6 months where i was covered 5-8% of my body according to the doctor since i was off my medication for 1.5 years
When i was on medication i used to get few plaques during winters which covered around 3% of the body and they got cleared in summers in 2-4 months.Rest of the months i was 99.9% clear of it
Now i have started the medication again and it is in control now where i have around 1-2% of involvement and hoping it will be cleared in 1-2 months inshallah.I take injections once every month now
Other than this condition I am Healthy and normal and i also work by Gods grace.
I am planning to get married,Given my history of this condition should i inform my prospective spouse about this condition.
I feel nobody will be interested after i inform them about it.So i am not able to take a decision due to this.
Doctors told it is perfectly okay to get married living with this condition
Assalāmualaykum Warahmatullāhi Wabarakātuhū
Hāmidan Wamuswalliyan
Al Jawāb Bi’ounillāh Wa’alayhi At-tuklān
Allah Ta’āla says,
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ [الروم: 21]
And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Allah Ta’āla describes the husband and wife as a garment for one another in the following verse.
هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَهُنَّ [ البقرة:187 ]
Your wives are garments for you and you are garments for your wives.
Garments are multi-purpose they cover the body, keep the body cool in the summer and provides warmth in the winter. Likewise, they are a source of beauty and chastity. If one does not look after his garments, he does not iron them and wash the stains, the garments will no longer serve the purpose of beauty, protection and warmth.
We have to also accept the fact that no two humans can make a perfect match. The attitude of zero defect is not possible nor practical. Total compatibility is almost impossible. They will always be situations wherein either one of you will have to compromise.
The husband and wife have to bond with one another psychologically, physically and spiritually.
The prophet Muhammad Sallallāhu ‘alayhi Wasallam said “Whoever deceives is not amongst us”
You should tell your future spouse about your health condition. Allāh Almighty is clement, He always stands with those who speaks the truth.
“May Almighty Allāh grant you a compatible spouse” Āmīn
Allāh Ta’ālā knows best.